Caring

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”  Dalai Lama

This week’s topic of discussion is caring, in which the Oxford dictionary defines caring as “displaying kindness and concern for others.”  As the above quote highlights caring for others, or compassion, can assist towards our own happiness or wellbeing, provided we don’t overdo this at our own expense.

Contributing to others does provide a sense of connection which can improve our self-esteem, however, contributing when our own cup is empty does nothing but fatigue us more.  We need to have sufficient fuel, prior to assisting others.  Carer fatigue or burn out is very real and can take some time to overturn.

There are many carers in our society, some are formal carers who provide in home support for their loved one.  We also have carers in informal roles (which are not recognised) who also provide significant support and care to their loved ones.

Then there are the rest of us, who provide care and support in an as needs basis for our family, friends and the wider community.  Whether in volunteering roles as a member of a group of service club, or volunteering at the local sports club, schools or kinder – all this assistance is much needed and appreciated in the community.  In fact, society would not survive without the care and support of the volunteers.

On a personal level, we all at times require care and support from our loved ones.  Times can be challenging through ill health or grief.  This is when the care and support is really needed and appreciated by those experiencing difficult times.  I know for me, the care and support I received when unwell – really assisted me and lifted my spirits., despite being overwhelmed at the same time.  I imagine that this is the same for others – I had not thought about this before.

In the past, when hearing of a loss – I would shop for essentials and make a meal for the family to share.  I did this for me and for respect of the person that had died.  Many years ago, I had a fellow social worker explain that despite the clunkiness of words – intent always shines through.  I am hoping that this was what happened when the delivery was received.

How do you show others that you care?