For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.
I’ve been thinking of change this week and have noted that change is constant, and we are not always aware of the gradual changes that happen in our life. It can be as subtle as a conversation with another person which provides a different perspective on our world. Then there are the major changes, in which we make a conscious decision to change our life. Whether this is through education, taking on new employment opportunity in a different field, adding to the family or a new home.
There are pivotal moments in everyone’s life where decisions need to be made based on circumstances or events. At times, the decisions could be reactional, an illness or redundancy. The decisions are made when circumstances and life are cruel. It may not feel that there are decisions to be made, but the choices are always there – even if it is to fight or find solutions to a really scary and threatening time. At times, lack of finances may make you feel that you are stuck in a place that you don’t wish to be.
For others, big decisions are made to undertake training to provide opportunities in another field. For those who are financially supported at a young age, this is not as scary for those undertaking this as a mature student with responsibilities to other humans. The question is always at the back of your mind – “will this investment pay off for us all?” Weighing up all of the energy, time and money invested is a constant juggle for all. So many events missed or compromised on the long journey.
Changing careers is also a pivotal moment, going from one field to another. From being comfortable and knowing everything about your employment and organisation to the unfamiliar. Starting again on a probation time and leaving all your sick leave behind. The safety net is taken away and the unknown is a little messy whilst you find your feet in the new role.
Then there is the decision to add to your family and the constant changes this brings, while attempting to juggle the new responsibilities and how these impacts on all aspects of your life. Life transitions happen constantly with major milestones being reached and this also changes you as you experience every new event.
A new home purchase is exciting and nerve wracking all in one event. Decisions about the location, whether to build, paperwork and possibly obtaining a loan for this major investment. Then of course there is the move and all the madness and hard work that goes with this.
So, no matter how much you love change or not – it is a given. Change is a constant and this is especially apparent with the changes in our world over the past two years.
How we react to the changes, is up to us. At times, it is reactional and then we need to wait until our nervous system calms down. Then we can decide, how we can proceed with this “new” situation.
Hoping you enjoy the change and the new experiences.