Worry

“Don’t worry about the pressure or the responsibility. Just live in it, have fun, and when everything seems to be going right, just stay humble and remember your family.” Roman Reigns

This week’s conversation is about worry or worrying and this quote is a timely reminder as we are nearing the most stressful time of the year for many people.  We often want the day to “be perfect” without any stress and unfortunately that does not always happen, and this occurs for a variety of reasons.

Expectations and excitement levels are high and when mixed in with financial stress, lots of people and stress amongst the family members – it can be a recipe for disaster.  A comment or reaction may be taken out of context when our stress levels are high, and this may inflame the situation more. 

We all try and find that “perfect’ gift and whilst we may love the item – individuals are all unique and have their own tastes, which may not match ours.  We are then disappointed with the receiver’s reaction, which causes more stress!  Bruises on bruises and that negative voice that many of us have in our head – ramps it up some more!

I know it sounds so simple but try and let some of the pressure go.  What can you change?  If it’s nothing, can you simply sit with the disappointment and enjoy the day for what it is?  At times like this, we need all the tools and strategies to reduce the impact and the feelings.  Perhaps even a little mantra – “I’ve done my best”. 

Mindfulness of breath is the only way we can change what is happening inside our bodies when life gets tough.  Breathing in for the count of four seconds through your nose, then breathing out for the count of six seconds through your mouth.  It is a lovely way of refocusing and getting back in control of those anxious thoughts and bodily feelings that go with them. 

If you need to, limit the time spent with family members.  Stay an hour or two – then go home.  This may limit the interactions and conflict at times of stress.  If you are unable to limit the time, take a small break from the event – go for a walk to regroup and get your thoughts together.  Give yourself permission to be gentle on yourself.