Authenticity

“If you think dealing with issues like worthiness and authenticity and vulnerability are not worthwhile because there are more pressing issues, like the bottom line or attendance or standardized test scores, you are sadly, sadly mistaken. It underpins everything.”  Brene Brown

This week’s conversation is about being authentic and this can be difficult, especially when in a room of peers, or having a different view on a particular subject.  Standing up for your own values can be challenging and it has taken me a long time to be able to state my view.

I recall many years ago being on a board and I was the only voice against a particular topic.  It is tough to be the only voice against a topic and I did feel lonely being on the outer.  However, I did stick to my view and asked to be recorded on the minutes as disagreeing with this decision.  Of course, outside the room – it was a mutual decision by the board, I felt the need to have this on record.  Many years later, others came to realise that what I had commented on was the truth.  One of the directors apologised at a later date that I was not believed.  I would still do the same today if faced in a similar position. 

I could have just shown up to the meeting and not have a view, however, I take the position to be informed and vote ethically on all matters.  The popular view is not necessarily the right one, either for me or for whom I am representing.

I have studied an eclectic range of topics over the years, both in social work and business.  These have led me to better understand myself and what I believe.  Whilst I still hold my opinions, I can always learn an alternative view, and this is based on what I read and observe.  Integrity is one of my strong values and whilst this is my value, others may not hold the same.  This came up in group work at an intensive when completing one of my studies.  We were having a simulation of many different businesses/organisations and were grouped within a team.  We had to make decisions during the day, based on the information presented and as it was given.  At the end of the day, our team were offered the opportunity to change our decision and get an advantage on another team.  Most of the team were willing to renege, which did not sit well with me.  I was able to give my reasons and talk the others around.  Thankfully, this enabled us to pass the day. 

These past few weeks, I have had to voice my displeasure and have since made a formal complaint to an organisation.  I decided that if I didn’t – I am accepting of what has occurred.

Being authentic matters to me and this quote from Brene Brown really resonates with me.