Responsibility ’26

“We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim. “I’m this way because my father made me this way. I’m this way because my husband made me this way.” Yes, we are indeed formed by traumas that happen to us. But then you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible.”  Camille Paglia

This week’s conversation is around responsibility and for me this is about taking ownership of what you have done and/or fixing trauma from others behaviour to you.  We are all in control of what we do, both to ourselves and others.  It is our own responsibility to heal the hurt imposed and/or decide if we need to mend our relationships if we have hurt someone or even disengage for our own health.  The choices are always our own.

I have had some family drama happening behind the scenes in recent time and the truth is beginning to come out into the open.  Things that have happened and now uncovered or unravelling with the mischief and misuse of information and items.  Unfortunately, I had expected this, however the level to what has occurred did catch me by surprise.  What has really annoyed me though, is that the person has chosen to lie and provide a different narrative which does not match any information at all!  They are also spreading the misinformation to keep their status and including outsiders in their narrative. 

I know that in any situation, there will be different perspectives on what happened.  However, there is a point where values need to buy into the conversation.  For me, the values need to align with the behaviour.  The voice and the actions also need to align and be consistent. 

Whilst I cannot control the other person, I can control my own actions, and these are based on my own value system.  This fits with my own truth and how I see the world and how I wish to live.

Taking responsibility at times can be difficult, however, I imagine that it is even more difficult to keep remembering what untruths you have told to who.  The storyline may get a little stretched or the story changes over time.  Surely, it is easier to admit to a mistake and go on from there?  I suppose that we are all not the same, but this makes sense to me.

So as this story unfolds, I imagine there will be emotions from all sides.  What we were told and what we saw, each view slightly or completely different.

The ride is certainly going to be a very long process with many sharp corners and turns.  It may also be a very interesting ride, with plot twists that I never thought of!

PS: the photo is of Apollo, one of the many responsibilities that I have…..